I think the other thing is that there is shame attached - that we believe somehow its our fault, that we deserved it. Thats where they win. If everyone could say no, this is entirely your action and you own it, then it would have an effect, but things leading up to these type of events can make us think that is was our faults. I think that's a hard belief to shake off. Even when you thought you had it can jump back and slap you in the face.
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branchandroot
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Date: 2004-08-04 06:01 am (UTC)I think that's a hard belief to shake off. Even when you thought you had it can jump back and slap you in the face.