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[hellison]

No Pity. No Shame. No Silence

Definitely deserves posting and has made me think a lot.

This hasn't happened to me, but when I think of my close friends to some extent its happened to a lot of them. Including 2 guys, that I know of. I've emailed it off to some of them.
Tho not to the 2 friends I know for sure have suffered this the most, I'm not sure I want to shove it in their face, especially since one only has net access at work.

Reading the comments has left me shaking and feeling ill, and I only got to page 5. It is stunning, and sickening to think how much is going on to people around us we just don't know about and may never know. And because we don't know, because people can't or won't speak out, or because when they do no-one listens, it keeps going on.

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[hellison.livejournal.com]

Its not rambling :) I've listened to a friend of mine on various occasions try to explain away or excuse the actions of the man who abused & hit her, saying it wasn't all his fault, she could have done or not done whatever.
For her, it was almost 20 years ago, but it still affects her every day and she still thinks it was somehow her fault, and nothing anyone has been able to say has made any difference.

I'd love to pass that post on to her, but I'm afraid it will stir things up for her too much, maybe force her to face things she doesn't want to...

[jin-shei.livejournal.com]

I'm with her. When I think back, I think that I could have left, I could have told someone, I could have stopped justifying to myself. Now, even, when I fight with someone I cringe, I am afraid. I logically know that noone is going to belt me but if someone tries to touch me when we are arguing, I duck. Thats eight years ago. In my head, his actions are his. In my deepest beliefs, somehow, I caused it.

S