Yes and no. As I said on my LJ there are occasions where people have misguided drunken sex which they later regret and this isn't rape. It's rape when, in the law in the Republic of Ireland anyway, a man is 'reckless' as to whether he believed consent was given: so if a woman is ratarsed to a degree where she's passing out or can barely stand etc and a man has sex with her, then that's classed as rape.
To your earlier point, who's to say what I should and shouldn't wear and where I should and shouldn't go? Yes I'm fairly clued in (these days) about my personal safety but there has been the odd occasion in the past where, after a few pints, I've walked home on a route where in a sensible frame of mind I wouldn't have gone that way in the dark, but y'know - no taxis around, I want the quickest route home. If I had been attacked I'd rather my drunken stupidity didn't have a bearing on my attackers conviction or led people to believe I was asking for it.
Also, I'd rather my clothing not be an issue. A short skirt or a low-cut top really shouldn't be seen as dangerous. I mean, if you take that view where will it end? A glimpse of ankle on show? A shapely calf?
Is it not more reasonable to ask men to not have sex if consent isn't very clear, rather than say to women don't do X, Y or Z?
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Date: 2008-09-04 01:54 pm (UTC)To your earlier point, who's to say what I should and shouldn't wear and where I should and shouldn't go? Yes I'm fairly clued in (these days) about my personal safety but there has been the odd occasion in the past where, after a few pints, I've walked home on a route where in a sensible frame of mind I wouldn't have gone that way in the dark, but y'know - no taxis around, I want the quickest route home. If I had been attacked I'd rather my drunken stupidity didn't have a bearing on my attackers conviction or led people to believe I was asking for it.
Also, I'd rather my clothing not be an issue. A short skirt or a low-cut top really shouldn't be seen as dangerous. I mean, if you take that view where will it end? A glimpse of ankle on show? A shapely calf?
Is it not more reasonable to ask men to not have sex if consent isn't very clear, rather than say to women don't do X, Y or Z?